The Finish

The Finish

by Lena Arnold

 The FinishHistory of the above poem The Finish

I recently learned that my poem “The Finish” was in a high school graduation flyer in a completely different state.  I didn’t mind that.  In fact I was very flattered.  The whole point of the poem is to inspire people never to give up. What did bother me was the fact that whoever decided to put it in the flyer did not bother to cite the author ME!  My friend who was at the graduation saw it and exclaimed to the person who created the flyer, “This is my friends poem! Where did you get this and why isn’t her name on it?”

The person replied, “You’re friend wrote this.  Really? No she didn’t I just found it somewhere.”  As if my friend couldn’t possibly have a friend who could write such an inspirational poem. Oh, and she never elaborated where the “somewhere” was she found it. So I was in effect flattered and insulted all in the same day.

God gave me this poem in 1986.  I said God because I believe God gave me the gift of writing and I am often inspired by the Word of God to write. So I don’t mean He literally spoke to me in a cloud of light, I simply mean He inspired me and I wrote the poem.

It was copy written at that time and first performed publicly by ME at a graduation ceremony for a non-profit program for run by an organization called Project IMPACT Dayton.  I was an employee and co-creator of a program called the Truancy Prevention Project, which is still being utilized by an organization called Project CURE in Dayton, OH.

Since that time, I have placed this poem on the last page of every book I have written and published, with the exception of Jackie’s Way. It can also be found on all my blogs.

So, if you ever see my poem The Finish with the words “author anonymous” or “author unknown,” or no author at all, do me and all other writers a favor-contact whoever published it and send them this link.  While it feels good to inspire, being invisible-Not so much.-Lena Fields-Arnold, Author “The Finish.”

Here’s a picture with the poem. Please feel free to share it with them as well as with anyone else who might need a word of encouragement.

God Bless-Lena

PS, if you like this poem, please click the link and buy some Finish Products.  They’re really cool. Click here and BUY the Finish Products online at Zazzle.

 

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In the Absence of My Father-Spanish Version Coming 2018

Extraído de en la Ausencia de mi Padre por Lena Arnold

Libro disponible en abril de 2018

El Padre Bueno

Por Lena Arnold

Copyright 2009

 Él es más noble que cualquier rey humano.

Y sirve por mucho más motivos de nobler.

Su sacrificio sirve como el testigo,

contra aquellos que cometen la traición paternal.

Él serves:

Para el sonido que su hijo hace,

cuando él aspira por la noche.

Para la sonrisa de su hija,

cuando el sol arrojó su luz llena

 

Para la mirada de la luna

cuando ellos persiguen a luciérnagas.

Para el viento libre en sus pies,

cuando ellos corren rápido con cielos azules.

 

Ya que el dulce susurran de la arena,

durante un día de verano caliente.

Para las bolas de nieve frío frígido,

durante el juego del invierno de diversión.

 

Para la alegría ellos le traen realmente,

con canciones tontas; bailes extraños.

Para la vida ellos lo aspiran,

con sus caminos locos y payasadas.

 

Para decir chillando ruedas en el pavimento,

cuando sus motos se estrellan a la tierra.

Para el golpe en su pecho,

cuando él da vuelta hacia el sonido.

 

Para los latidos del corazón él siente,

cuando él los sostiene estrechamente.

Para el amor en sus ojos penetrantes,

cuando él venda rodillas peladas.

 

Para abrazos incondicionales,

al final de día difícil.

Para amor incondicional, y

por una razón de rezar.

 

Tan para cada padre dentro del sonido de mi voz;

Para cada padre que hizo la opción optativa;

al hombre y aceptan la responsabilidad,

Quien anted; funcionamiento desinteresadamente.

 

Le saludo hoy y para siempre,

Le armo caballero cuando usted nunca ha sido antes.

Un noble más valiente que cualquier fila en de la mesa redonda,

Constante en compromiso, estable, seguro y estable.

 

Usted héroes de zanja verdaderos paternales.

Partícipes de esta ceremonia informal.

Quien viendo palabras sobre el pergamino impersonal,

Merezca más que el reconocimiento superficial.

Ya que usted sirve por mucho más motivos de nobler que

patriotismo, venganza, o honradez.

Usted simplemente sirve, como usted ama.

¿Qué podría estar más espléndido alguna vez que esto?

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In the Absence of My Father Book Review

Posted by Permission from Diane A. Sears, Global and USA Coordinator for International Men’s Day, the Managing Editor of IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD

Diane, thank you so much for this heartfelt review that brought tears to my eyes.-Lena

IN THE ABSENCE OF MY FATHER:  GIVING VOICE TO THE UNSPOKEN PAIN OF FATHERLESSNESS AND UNVEILING THE POWERFUL GIFTS  THAT FATHERS BESTOW

BY:  Diane A. Sears

There are 2.3 billion children occupying this space and place we know as Planet Earth and 320,000,000 of these souls are making their journey from childhood to adulthood in a single parent home.   For many reasons – reasons they did not create  – these souls are Fatherless.   They have become casualties of extenuating circumstances beyond their control.   And our communities have become casualties of the absence of Fathers in our children’s lives.  It’s all about the “hands that rock the cradle” and the “hands that do not rock the cradle”.   Who speaks for these 320,000,000 souls?   In The Absence Of My Father (www.amazon.com) is a powerful body of work penned by prolific author, publisher, and consultant on family and youth issues, Mrs. Lena Fields Arnold.   It is an instrument through which Fatherless children can see their reflections and hear their own voices.    Mrs. Arnold’s masterfully crafted literary work — In The Absence Of My Father— is an instrument that provides society with an unabashedly honest look at the devastating impact Fatherlessness has on the soul and spirit of children who are the “heart and soul” of our communities and our global village.    In a poetic narrative which bears the same name as the title of her book, “In The Absence Of My Father”, Mrs. Arnold unearths the  “excess baggage” of unspoken emotional and spiritual pain and the persistent and weighty feeling of “unworthiness” that the global village’s 320,000,000 Fatherless souls carry around.   It is “excess baggage” that plays out in their decision making, behavior, and professional and personal relationships and in the lives of everyone they are connected to.

absence At the same time, through In The Absence Of My Father, Mrs. Arnold speaks for the 1.98 billion souls who are children who have either a Father or a Figure Father in their life.  Through a succinct poetic narrative, “Father”, Mrs. Arnold pays homage to the Men throughout our global village who are positively shaping the minds and souls of our children – the global village’s “heart and soul”.   While In The Absence Of My Father paints a graphic picture of the devastation that Fatherlessness visits upon children and communities, it also unearths the unspoken impact and importance of  Fathers who positively shape the minds and souls of our children – the “heart and soul” of our global village.   And the unspoken far reaching impact and importance of Fathers are the powerful gifts they bestow upon our children.   Through two soulful poetic narratives, “Sonnet in September” and “Sweet Surrender”, Mrs. Arnold unveils these powerful and positively transforming gifts that Fathers bestow upon our children – gifts which are, to a degree, taken for granted.  Men who are able to remain in the lives of their children have a powerful impact on both their child and our global village.  These Men constitute the important pair of “hands that rock the cradle”.

Inasmuch as In The Absence Of My Father is an instrument through which Fatherless children can see their own reflection and hear their own voice, it is also an instrument through which children whose journey from childhood to adulthood has been guided by a Father or a Father Figure can speak to the powerful gifts bestowed upon them by Men who were able to remain in their lives at a time when they were needed the most.

In The Absence Of My Father is required reading for Fatherhood Practitioners and Advocates, social services professionals and providers, health care professionals and providers, educators, school administrators, parents, legislators, legal professionals, law enforcement professionals, community activists, social entrepreneurs, and public policy professionals.

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Diane A. Sears is the Global and USA Coordinator for International Men’s Day, the Managing Editor of IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD® (http://globalfatherhooddialogue.blogspot.com), a quarterly international Fatherhood and Men’s Issues journal; a member of the University Council for Men’s Studies and Fatherhood Program at Akamai University (www.akamaiuniversity.us)  a member of Leading Women For Shared Parenting (www.lw4sp.org) , the host of IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD®, a blog talk radio show (www.blogtalkradio.com/gumboforthesoul), and the Editor/Author of a Fatherhood book, In Search Of Fatherhood®–Transcending Boundaries (www.amazon.com)

 

Ted Williams’ Story Reminds World of the Relevance of Fathers

 

Ted Williams, Radio Man, golden radio voice - Bum that became a star – Ted Williams

A homeless man with a golden voice has inspired the world to believe that dreams can come true.  Yet in the midst of all the fanfare, there are nine people who are still crying with a pain that no amount of money can heal.

These are the voices of Ted William’s children who lived for years with his repeated absence, abandonment and neglect.   Several of his children recently appeared with him on the Dr. Phil show, where polite diatribe was exchanged before, in a more private setting, tempers flared and a more truthful story was told.  Forgiveness is earned when a person sincerely asks for it, and proves by their actions that they have changed.

In the Absence of my Father, published by Emperor Publishing, these issues are explored with heartfelt emotion and sincerity. “When a father leaves his family, and engages in a repeated pattern of neglect and absence, it is in many ways even worse than never having had a father at all.”  Said Lena Arnold, author.

I was compelled to write this book,” said Lena, “after viewing a talk show where a guest made a statement that his child didn’t need him.  He was absolutely clueless to how important he was to that child’s life.   While watching Ted Williams’s response to his children’s tears, and hearing his statement, I sadly realized that he, too,  had been clueless.  Unfortunately, many men think if a child is left with a strong woman that is enough, but that is simply not the truth.”

Glenn Jeffrey, founder of Life Coaches for Kids believes that the most important issue underlying the majority of troubled kids is the voluntary abandonment of children by their fathers.  To that end, Lena, who has more than 20 years experience working with troubled youth, believes her book will help men to understand what happens when they aren’t around for evil, and when they are around for good.  The course of Lena Arnold’s own life was negatively impacted as a direct result of the absence of her father.

Ted Williams is finding out that whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, when a man fails to live up to his responsibility, everyone suffers.  Ah, but when he meets those obligations there are great rewards, not just for his family, but the world at large.

This book is distinctive in that it is the only book of poetry deals with male abandonment from purely a poetic perspective.” said Dr. Carolyn L. Gordon, PhD. Div.

“Its balanced treatments are written to encourage men that contrary to what messages the world has sent they are needed for our nourishment, are important to our growth, and valuable to our development.”

For more information, or to purchase the contact visit lenafieldsarnold@gmail.com. Available on Amazon or wherever books are sold.

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